HAND IT BACK
THE PRESALE IS HERE
The weight you're carrying was never yours to hold
The fear. The guilt. The timelines, the opinions, the "at your age..." you never agreed to - but somehow ended up carrying anyway. There's a way to set it down. It takes four steps, and you can start today.
Presale opens October 16. The companion workbook + a virtual ticket is yours free.
You know the feeling.
Your jaw tightens before they even finish the sentence. Your chest goes tight over a comment that "didn't mean anything." You lie awake replaying a conversation, trying to figure out why it's still sitting on you.
That weight has a source. Somehow along the way, someone handed you a script - a belief, a rule, a fear - and you picked it up without ever asking if it was yours.
You should be married by now. Don't wait too long. Be practical.
Who do you think you are?
You've carried it so long, from so many people, you stopped being able to tell where their voice ends and yours begins.
Here's what no one told you: you were never required to accept delivery.
THE METHOD
I spent most of my life carrying everyone's expectations, thinking that's what "capable" looked like.
I was exhausted. When I finally set it all down, I didn't find failure.
I found freedom.
It came down to four steps - simple enough to do in a doctor's office, a work meeting, or the car after a family dinner where everything went sideways.
01
Notice
Your body knows before your brain does. The tight chest, the shame from nowhere. That's the signal something's being handed to you.
02
Name
Get specific. Not "I feel bad," but "they're handing me the belief that___." You can't hand back what you can't name.
03
Check
Hand on your chest. Ask one question: Is this mine? Your body doesn't lie.
04
Hand it back
Set it down, out loud or silently. "That's not mine."
That's it. No years of therapy. No personality overhaul. A practice you can start the next time your shoulders climb towards your ears.
This isn't a book about pregnancy.
It's not about motherhood, or any single chapter of your life. It's about every package that's ever been handed to you - the promotion you talked yourself out of, the move everyone said was irresponsible, the divorce you're carrying everyone's fear about, the business idea you've rewritten for three years because a voice that isn't yours keeps asking who you think you are.
AGE. WORK. MONEY.
YOUR BODY. GRIEF.
THE RULES YOU NEVER AGREED TO.
Once you see it, you can't unsee it. And once you can hand it back, everything gets lighter.
WHY I WROTE IT
I'm Tanis Larson.
A few years ago, a nurse called my pregnancy "geriatric," and I posted a video about it - no plan, no lighting, half-laughing. By the next day, thousands of women had written back the same two words: me too. Too old. Too ambitious. Too much. Never enough. The Hand It Back Method is what I built from that - for everyone of them, and for you.
"A thoughtful and engaging meditation for anyone tired of "shrinking"."
- KIRKUS REVIEWS
For the women who have carried fear, guilt, and the expectations of others for far too long. It's time to hand it back and carry what was always meant for you.
Pre-order today.
Here's everything you get when you order during the presale.
1
The Hand It Back Method
The full four-step method, real stories, and the exact words to use when it's your mother, your boss, or a stranger on the internet.
2
The companion workbook - free (Value $24.99)
The full four-step method, real stories, and the exact words to use when it's your mother, your boss, or a stranger on the internet.
3
An invitation to the launch party
Celebrate with the women doing this work alongside you with a free virtual ticket.
You've been carrying this long enough.
Set it down. Pick up what was always meant for you.
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